Home, Not School
The coziness of home. What does that phrase evoke for you?
As Julie points out:
Homeschoolers: we're at home—that place we return to where we kick off our shoes, rip off our bras, and flop onto the coach. We yearn for home after too much time away. Home is where I get to be myself without the pressure to be some other version of me. (The Brave Learner, page 166)
When we homeschool, the temptation to turn our house into a school is strong, especially when the traditional school model is the primary one that so many of us are familiar with.
But what happens at home when we attempt to impose the structure of school? Our kids "instinctively rebel against turning the place they love into a place with pressure and guidelines."
Ultimately, home "is all about the accommodation of each person's needs and wants. People come first—not the schedule."
What we are looking to do is find ways to drop our school focus and instead pay attention to our home life.
Julie delves deeper into this idea in her blog post Keeping the home in homeschool:
We ask our homes to do double duty when we homeschool. We bring a memory of “school” from a building (that hard-working place) that was not home into our homes. We sometimes take the pressures of school as we remember it and add it into the mix of education at home. The safe space called home (that our kids intuitively know is supposed to be safe and peaceful) is now the competitive, demanding space of school. Grades and achievement happen “out there” for most people and home is the retreat. We’re asking our kids to marry the two, like oil stirred into water.
Awareness that we are, in fact, expecting our kids to work hard at home (when the spirit of home is slower, more restful, not driven to meet deadlines) is the first step. But the second step has to be changing how we understand education! If we truly believe that the competitiveness and the standardized lesson-plans, workbook style teaching of school are inferior to the tutorial-based educational style of homeschooling, then we need to stop hand-wringing about outcomes (progress) and imposing a schoolish format to the work we do with our kids!
In this Master Class, we explore how to shift the lens through which we view our homeschool from that of school to that of home.
To get you started, we've included the "Liberation from School" chapter from The Brave Learner.
Give it a read. Highlight what grabs your attention. Write down your thoughts in your Scatterbook or in the Brave Learner Companion Guide. Start a new thread in Community Coaching to discuss what you discover or any questions you might have.
Then read on to discover how this practice, combined with other Brave Learner practices, can help you gain the confidence and reassurance you need to know you are on the right track as you create a homeschool and home life that works for you!
Posted November 30th, 2019
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