00:05:55 Stephanie: Hello! 00:06:18 Jeanne: Hi from Virginia! 00:06:18 Leslie Baxley: hi!! from Northern VA:) 00:06:27 Heidi Adams: Charleston, WV 00:06:28 Stacey Turner: Denton, Texas 00:06:29 Jill Jarvis: Hello from upstate SC! 00:06:32 Kelly Bikurgurl: Hello from Seattle <3 00:06:32 Sarah: Hi, From Atlanta GA 00:06:35 Adriénne: Hi from Chesapeake, VA! 00:06:37 JIll Stabeno: JIll here from Boston 00:06:42 angie: Hi from Fairfax, VA 00:06:42 Wendy: Hi so nice to see what you two look like! 00:06:42 Sarah: Hi from San Diego! 00:06:49 Jennifer Raymond: Hello from Seattle! 00:06:51 Erin: Hi from Greeneville Tennessee! 00:07:00 Jessica Sparks: Hi, from Columbus, OH! 00:07:00 Stephanie: Make sure that you are sending chat to “All Panelists and attendees” so that everyone can see it! 00:07:00 dcullen: Debe from Dallas Texas!!! so excited!!! 00:07:02 Jeanne: Welcome everyone! 00:07:03 Christina: Sacramento, CA 00:07:05 kristentelling: Hello from San Luis Obispo, Ca! 00:07:05 elena grover: Hi! It's elena from the SF Bay area 00:07:06 Heidi Adams: newbie to the alliance 00:07:07 JIll Stabeno: Jill from Boston is New!! 00:07:08 melanie: Greetings everyone from Virginia! 00:07:10 Nikki: Hi from Ohio! 00:07:12 Wendy: Rhode Island 00:07:12 meganvansipe: Here from MIchigan! 00:07:15 Mary: Hi from Northern Colorado 00:07:16 Stephanie: Lots of folks are sending message to just all panelists! 00:07:22 Nikki: New! 00:07:29 Jessica Sparks: Been in the alliance for 1 month too! 00:07:31 Brie Sessa: Florida 00:07:33 Kathryn A: Kathryn from North Vancouver BC Canada 00:07:34 Erin: I've been in the alliance for a little over a month. 00:07:45 Stephanie: Welcome all our newbie Alliies! 00:07:51 hsiaolei: hi! 00:07:54 katfrogg: Georgia 00:08:02 Stephanie: Yay Heather! 00:08:09 Kate Johnston Tucker: Hooray for Heather! 00:08:11 Adriénne: Congrats, Heather! 00:08:16 melanie: welcome all new members. This is the best use of your resources - for real. 00:08:19 Ry-Ann: Hi. I’m a new member from the Clearwater area. 00:08:20 Heather Hitchcock: Hey guys! I’m here! Coming up on my 3 year anniversary in the Alliance. My favorite online place! 00:08:22 Jeanne: If you’re chatting, make sure you’ve selected all panelists and attendees if you want the whole community to see your post 00:08:39 TIngalls: got it 00:09:05 Andi: what pages from the guide are we using tonight? 00:09:13 Jeanne: In the Alliance, you can introduce yourself in Community Coaching in the Find an Ally thread 00:09:22 Stephanie: Don’t forget to send your comments to “All panelists and attendees” so everyone can see! 00:09:22 Kate Johnston Tucker: No video from our end on this webinar? I don’t see the usual full panel of faces - and just want to make sure before I start prancing around here. ;) 00:09:44 Jessica Sparks: I dont see any of he videos on our end too. 00:09:59 Stephanie: Yes, Katie. We are doing a webinar format. 00:10:02 Kate Johnston Tucker: Great! Got it! Perfect. ;) 00:10:03 melanie: I see you but not any of the other parents. 00:10:16 melanie: makes sense! 00:10:20 heather mccoy: hello from VA! 00:10:20 Jeanne: Remember that there are replays of previous Book Club sessions and previous master classes in the Alliance 00:10:21 Stephanie: But we can read you! 00:10:41 TIngalls: not sure why my name doesn't apear when i post 00:10:58 mindycummings: Glad to be here, thank you! 00:11:20 Brie Sessa: YES!!!! 00:11:20 Adriénne: YES!!! 00:11:21 melanie: LOVE IT! 00:11:21 elena grover: YAY! 00:11:22 Kelly Bikurgurl: Yes!! 00:11:24 Jill Jarvis: Very close to being done! 00:11:24 Sarah: YES!! 00:11:25 Stephanie: yes! 00:11:26 mindycummings: Loving the book! 00:11:26 Brie Sessa: On my second time through 00:11:26 Heidi Adams: finished my first go through 00:11:26 angie: Yes!! 00:11:27 April Dugger: Yes!! 00:11:27 kristentelling: yes! 00:11:28 JIll Stabeno: On my 2nd read through 00:11:28 TIngalls: absolutely!!!! not finished...slow crawl 00:11:29 heather mccoy: rereading! 00:11:30 Kelly Bikurgurl: Love it -- on my third reading <3 00:11:31 Heidi Adams: starting second round 00:11:32 Stacey Turner: finished & listened to audible too! 00:11:36 mindycummings: Rereading this section :) 00:11:38 Adriénne: Starting 2nd as well! 00:11:39 Tessin: Just glad to know I’m not behind yet!! 00:11:40 Jennifer Raymond: loving it, and your podcasts from season 5! 00:11:41 Jessica Sparks: 1/3 of the way though, and loving it!! 00:11:41 courtney lyons: I 00:11:45 Jeanne: I take notes and then Stephanie turns them into pull quotes that you can access as a pdf in the Alliance when the replay is posted 00:11:55 courtney lyons: I've been reading slowly to try to let it all sink in! 00:11:58 melanie: yep! 00:11:58 Hsiaolei: Still reading it and loving it. So many pages are flagged. 00:12:00 Adriénne: Yes, in my co-op! 00:12:04 Angie B.: Starting a book club this month! 00:12:05 melanie: Several friends of mine are reading! 00:12:05 Jeanne: So many book clubs popping up all over! 00:12:05 Heather Hitchcock: Me! Hosting a book club once a month 00:12:07 Heidi Adams: have a club starting in April 00:12:07 TIngalls: with my friend Cassi 00:12:07 mariapeters: It’s our next book for our book club 00:12:10 Brie Sessa: I’m going to start a book club next month 00:12:11 Kelly Bikurgurl: Yes!! I started The Brave Learner Seattle <3 00:12:13 melanie: and not just homeschooling families :) 00:12:13 Adriénne: I printed up the Companion for each person who’s reading it! 00:12:22 mariapeters: however, most of the women have already started reading! 00:12:40 TIngalls: love the guide. got it printed by the homeschool printing company 00:12:45 Jeanne: Companion Guide is a free download 00:12:52 Stephanie: So good to hear Michelle. 00:12:54 Kate Johnston Tucker: Yes, love the Seattle area book clubs you’ve started, Kelly! I’m across the water from the city, but hoping to find one that might work for me. Or others near me. :) 00:12:56 Heidi Adams: yes! 00:13:00 Angie B.: Art/Maker space table! 00:13:00 Heidi Adams: they found the glitter today 00:13:01 Sarah: yes 00:13:05 Heather Hitchcock: I “art’ed” today! 00:13:17 Kelly Bikurgurl: Kate -- we'd love to have you {or feel free to start your own!!} <3 00:13:20 elena grover: my three year old is all over this!! 00:13:22 Hsiaolei: we have two art carts right in the middle of our living area. 00:13:37 JIll Stabeno: please please please - can I just say FORTNITE 00:13:54 melanie: Oh Jill. Yes 00:14:02 Kelly Bikurgurl: Yes! Fortnite <3 00:14:04 Stephanie: Not a unit study! A way to get curious about your kid and what they are getting out of it! 00:14:04 Jeanne: The Companion Guide is available inside the Alliance and also at https://thebravelearner.com/ 00:14:21 Heidi Adams: I added a coffeetable tray with magnetic poetry and an easel...it has been fun... 00:14:37 Jeanne: Rachel that sounds awesome! 00:15:24 jennifer: Oh Heidi - thank you for that idea! I’ve been wanting to put the magnetic poetry on the fridge but I’m afraid the tiles are going to get lost under the fridge. 00:15:42 Heidi Adams: I found a nice rimmed tray that keeps them contained... 00:15:50 April Dugger: Love that idea, Heidi! 00:15:55 Jeanne: Don’t “do the solar system TO them” 00:16:07 Stephanie: Don’t forget to send your comments to “All panelists and attendees” so everyone can see! 00:16:18 Jeanne: Seed your imagination and then naturally draw in connections you’re creating inside yourself 00:16:19 Adriénne: Yes 00:16:19 melanie: yep 00:16:20 Lisa Jones: My five-year-old is soooo into planets right now. I had to stop my teacher-y self from making a unit study even for her (and because she's 5, we don't "do school"). I've just joined her in the interest. 00:16:20 Jessica Sparks: yes! 00:16:27 Hsiaolei: yes 00:16:28 Stephanie: If it goes to only All panelists, only we will see! 00:16:51 melanie: Stephanie or Jeanne - what’s the printing company y’all like to use? 00:16:59 Kelly Bikurgurl: I love to BuJo { My Scatterbook!!} 00:17:14 Heather Hitchcock: Wouldn’t it be great to print them on sticker paper? 00:17:15 Kelly Bikurgurl: I printed mine out on sticker sheets <3 00:17:16 MelodyHolz: got it! thanks Stephanie! 00:17:16 Stephanie: Homeschool Printing Company 00:17:25 Heather Hitchcock: Ha! Kelly! 00:17:25 Lisa Jones: Sticker sheets! Great idea. 00:17:29 Jeanne: Use the icons from the Companion book in your Scatterbook™ 00:17:58 Kate Johnston Tucker: Homeschool Printing Company is amazing! I was so impressed with the quality…. 00:18:06 Ash H (Smash): oh Kelly, so smart! I have stiker sheets tooooo. Woot 00:18:10 Jeanne: The printing company many homeschoolers use is 00:18:12 Jeanne: https://thehomeschoolprintingcompany.com/ 00:18:21 Stephanie: Icons are on Page 11 of the Companion Guide. 00:18:22 Jeanne: Icons on page 11 00:18:38 Jeanne: You could do one super power PER MONTH 00:18:52 Lisa Jones: I love the Homeschool Printing Company. I got my husband to use the printer at the public school where he teaches to print this out, though. Shhh, don't tell anyone. I don't feel bad because we both spent so much money there as teachers! 00:18:56 Jeanne: And you don’t have to go in order with the superpowers 00:19:15 Brie Sessa: This is what I love about you Julie! FREEDOM! 00:19:18 Heather Hitchcock: You can Superpower from behind too. Note your day in your Scatterbook and then see which ones you’re naturally pulling in. 00:19:21 Kelly Bikurgurl: <3 00:19:30 TIngalls: love my boxes exploded 00:19:36 Hsiaolei: I always need the boxes exploded. I am very literal! 00:19:37 Stephanie: Superpower from behind! 00:19:45 Stephanie: Heather’s idea! 00:20:02 melanie: this is the main thing I say about you Julie - that you’re this amazing homeschool advocate and mentor, yet you are forever telling us we can decide how we’re doing it in our families. 00:20:04 Jeanne: Cater to your personality; give yourself permission to imagine your personality in new conditions 00:20:12 Heather Hitchcock: Superpower from behind works for Type A. I’m one! 00:20:35 Kelly Bikurgurl: <3 {{{{PERMISSION}}}}} <3 00:20:55 Jeanne: Honor your Self from the space of how things WORK for you. If you love systems and lists, find a way to work with yourself so you still like yourself at the end 00:21:40 MelodyHolz: Type C! 00:21:51 Heather Hitchcock: Type A can use your checklist but keep your relationship with your children the basis of your homeschool. 00:22:03 mali: I feel like I’m 00:22:04 Stephanie: Exactly Heather! 00:22:13 mali: both neither and :) 00:22:19 Jeanne: Public school: get through, get done, test, evaluate - but there are teachers who find a way to think about it as a way to engage learners 00:22:20 TIngalls: i was a type A teacher for 15 years and now i am a type b teacher with my kids. 00:22:42 TIngalls: was aksed today if i would go back...don't think my new philosophy will ever work within that system again 00:22:48 TIngalls: who knows....Tami 00:22:58 Lisa Jones: Same here. I was a type A teacher but I tried to engage them. But I'm soooo different with my own kids. 00:23:57 Jeanne: The One Thing principle is a sanity saver. Julie’s goal is to give you lots of options and then you take your time exploring things one at a time 00:24:19 Wendy: How do I reconcile wanting to do things regularly (weekly copywork, freewrite, etc.) with keeping things casual and enchanted? Especially if my kids don't really want to do these things? They'd rather do their own thing. So basically reconciling a plan with enchantment - and what to do when it falls flat? 00:24:56 Jill Jarvis: Wendy…I’ve created a loop so when they show an interest or aren’t doing something, they go with the next thing on the loop list. 00:25:17 Wendy: Thanks Jill that makes a lot of sense! 00:25:33 melanie: Jill - what does that loop look like? 00:25:40 Heather Hitchcock: Wendy, what about enchanting copywork specifically? Candles, surprise them with new writing utensils, a special treat? 00:26:05 Jill Jarvis: I have the things listed into our online planner (homeschool planet) and it is scheduled out but easily adjustable. 00:26:06 Wendy: That I have been doing...it works well...but we do only end up doing copywork like once a month because I hate to do it unless they are genuinely into it. 00:26:15 mali: I always ask myself who has the resources I can borrow or experience at the location. it also cuts down on clutter. 00:26:35 Lisa Jones: I do candles for copywork and I join in and do my own, often in another language so it will be challenging. It helps. 00:27:16 mariapeters: My kids used to dislike copyworb until we started note booking. They loved writing down their own thoughts and ideas or helping me to write down their thoughts. We used this to back into copyworb from the BW Arrows. 00:27:19 Wendy: I think I am seeking balance between actually doing these things (I always aim to enchant them) and not doing them at all. Because no matter how much enchantment, sometimes no one feels like doing copywork. So then I ditch it. 00:28:19 mariapeters: We also use a time timer and I set it for my child’s age + 1 minute. I ask that they concentrate and do their best work for that amount of time and that’s it. I stick to it. I sit down with them and do my own copywork. 00:28:21 Wendy: What if that natural curiosity isn't provoked? I hate doing that preparation only to have it ignored. 00:28:35 melanie: yes Wendy - me too! 00:28:37 Stephanie: Maybe it is ok to ditch it for a little while and let how you want to handle it percolate. Give yourself some time to live into your answer rather than trying to force it. 00:28:48 Jeanne: Do you have to FOIST something ON kids like a unit study, or could you introduce things in a way that uses the surprise factor and a sense of discovery? 00:28:49 Lisa Jones: Me too, Wendy. It's hard. 00:28:51 Heather Hitchcock: What about shorter copywork passages but more frequently, Wendy? Start with adding just one more copywork day per month. 00:29:06 Jeanne: Allow that day to be about that THING 00:29:08 Stephanie: Don’t forget to send your comments to “All panelists and attendees” so everyone can see! 00:29:21 April Dugger: I have found that if I start doing something, the kids can't keep from being interested; especially if I am excited about it. So often I tell them about it, then I sit down to do it and before I know it they have joined in. 00:29:39 Jill Jarvis: Wendy…I had to get used to that too. I have started to realize that what I’d planned could be set aside and returned to at a later date. Sometimes that takes weeks but its there, ready to go when the spark happens. 00:29:48 Jeanne: When Julie introduced birdwatching to her kids, she looked through the field guide and binoculars herself. That’s just what I did, too! 00:29:49 Wendy: That does make sense, all of it. But then we just don't even do it at all. I've been about 3 months now without doing any copywork at all. Which is probably ok...but....you know. It's hard to not do ANYTHING and know it's ok 00:30:41 Wendy: Maybe just do what interests me and be ok if no one else is interested? LOL this happens a lot. 00:30:45 Jeanne: While you are living the moment of mystery and execution, don’t take a phone call or text; live in the present with your kids in that moment 00:30:47 Stephanie: It IS ok Wendy. 00:31:09 Stephanie: It’s hard not to take it personally! 00:31:11 Wendy: I think that is it. I have to know that it's ok. I'm sure it is. All those unschoolers are good with it! 00:31:27 Jill Jarvis: Wendy…it has literally taken me 3 years to get to a place that I’m not making decisions out of fear that I’m not doing it right. 00:31:29 April Dugger: Wendy, what if instead of worrying about not doing copywork, you just do some other form of natural writing? It's totally okay not to do copywork if it doesn't work. 00:32:04 Lisa Jones: I always find that the stuff I plan for and have big expectations for generally falls flat. And then my kids remember some random small thing we did that I didn't even plan, and that ends up being the REAL learning. 00:32:17 Stephanie: Exactly Lisa. 00:32:19 Jeanne: When the moment is over, you move on. On Enjoyment Day, you can do ONE thing. To create momentum, a week later, you do the crystalizing part of the One Thing practice: reminisce! 00:32:22 Wendy: What's funny is that my kids write all the time, every day. So I'm not sure why I'm worried about copywork. 00:32:32 Stephanie: Right, Wendy? 00:32:34 Wendy: LOL I just need to relax 00:32:37 melanie: It sounds so beautiful. 00:32:47 melanie: i need to calm the f down…and remember stuff, 00:33:01 MelodyHolz: This is so encouraging! Down to the ramen/quesadilla. You get me. 00:33:09 jennifer: Wendy - have you heard Julie’s story about getting interested in Native Americans and doing the map project she wanted to do instead of assigning it? 00:33:09 Stephanie: And maybe that is why you can’t figure out how to make it work Wendy. Your kids have lots of other reasons to be writing. 00:33:16 Jeanne: We are so busy rushing to the next thing, we don’t give ourselves credit for what we did well. Then we miss reminding our children that they have an amazing life. We do it for fun things, but we forget to do it for meaningful things. 00:33:22 Wendy: Haha I'm sure you are right there. 00:33:28 MelodyHolz: Kids will also start reminiscing…following my example! 00:33:35 Jeanne: Your kids start to trust you that good things are ahead. 00:33:41 Hsiaolei: It’s always better when I can relax. When I get stressed about something they are “not learning” it all goes down the tubes. 00:33:47 MelodyHolz: “remember when we made the kitchen table into a covered wagon and read about Laura and Mary?” 00:33:51 Stephanie: Don’t forget to send your comments to “All panelists and attendees” so everyone can see! 00:33:56 Wendy: Me too Hsiaolei 00:34:26 Hsiaolei: Relaxed mindset is hard to maintain daily! 00:34:35 Erin: wow! this is so powerful and encouraging! 00:34:36 Lisa Jones: Hsiaolei, are you the Hsiaolei from the Unrefined Voxer group? I was in it for a while and I remember your name. 00:34:42 Jeanne: If you do something well ONCE, they’ll think you did it all the time. If you do something well two or three things, they’ll DEFINITELY think you did it all the time. And if you do something all the time, your kids will do it with THEIR kids, because that will have become the culture. 00:34:46 Hsiaolei: I am Lisa! 00:35:00 Lisa Jones: That's so important, Jeanne. HUGE. 00:35:03 heather mccoy: hello to fellow unrefined voxerers! 00:35:05 mindycummings: Hi Lisa and Hsiaolei! 00:35:12 Lisa Jones: Nice to see you again, Hsiaolei! And Mindy! 00:35:17 Hsiaolei: Hey guys! 00:35:52 Wendy: Does anyone else find that the book has caused you to feel like you should be doing MORE? I feel like I've been TOO relaxed. 00:35:57 melanie: I just don’t want to mess up my kids. And it’s difficult to homeschool with all this trust in this culture of no trust. 00:36:13 Jeanne: Show up as yourself. Be the uptight anxious person you are if you need to be. Be yourself, and give yourself permission to have the homeschool you’ve been wanting. Prepare, execute, enjoy and reminisce. 00:36:16 heather mccoy: yes melanie 00:36:24 mali: Definitely Wendy! 00:36:47 Jeanne: Definitely Melanie. It is hard to trust in a culture that does not trust - and especially does not trust children. 00:36:58 Stephanie: The more you can work with how you naturally work the easier things will work. 00:37:02 Kelly Bikurgurl: What I love about your book and process, Julie, is it gives a lexicon to what we're doing already <3 00:37:02 Stephanie: Same with your kids 00:37:03 Heather Hitchcock: Wendy, that’s why I began with Superpowering from behind. Simply observe our day in our Scatterbook and see where things are. I found surprises & risks etc where I didn’t before. 00:37:11 Adriénne: I love modeling the flops, too! 00:37:25 Wendy: I need that thanks Heather! 00:37:32 Jessica Sparks: Heather I love that idea of superpowering from behind!! 00:37:36 MelodyHolz: transparency. 00:37:38 April Dugger: Melanie, you won't mess up your kids! I wish I would have believed that when my older kids were home. I had melt downs that I didn't need to have! 00:37:58 Timery Reis: Being vulnerable with your kids shows them that adults are just people! 🥰 00:37:58 Wendy: That is the missing piece for me...from behind. There is actually a lot of learning and enchantment here. I am too busy thinking about what we are not doing 00:38:03 Lisa Jones: My kids always do that with board games. They change the rules so it's how they want to play. 00:38:04 Jeanne: You are on a learning journey together with your kids. 00:38:14 Kelly Bikurgurl: My children are telling me daily how to do it better ;-) I love teens <3 They're the honest and brave learners I hope to be <3 00:38:21 Heather Hitchcock: Exactly, Wendy! So easy to focus on what’s not happening that we miss what IS happening. 00:38:33 Stephanie: That’s your assignment Wendy! Stop trying to figure things out for a little while and get curious to see what is happening and working! 00:38:39 Wendy: Heather you gave me a big aha tonight <3 00:38:52 Wendy: Yes Stephanie thank you! 00:39:22 Heather Hitchcock: Yay, Wendy! I love my Scatterbook. Saves me from beating myself up too much & helps my perspective. 00:39:40 TIngalls: we all are being homeschooled by you...learning to see differently. we are being unschooled 00:39:58 TIngalls: ignites curiousity 00:40:00 MelodyHolz: It helps them change the way THEY see 00:40:01 heather mccoy: i think it communicates that i care 00:40:01 mindycummings: memorable 00:40:03 jennybethke: Changes a sour mood 00:40:04 MelodyHolz: they feel loved 00:40:04 Kelly Bikurgurl: Surprise creates memoris 00:40:06 Lisa Jones: It's memorable. 00:40:06 Teresa: It excites!!! 00:40:08 Kate Johnston Tucker: It sparks a new brain pattern. 00:40:08 Kelly Bikurgurl: memories 00:40:12 elena grover: throws them off their regular track 00:40:13 Annie: Like in a book, it hooks you in! 00:40:15 jennifer: Surprise opens a window on something the kids doesn’t know about or an opinion they haven’t considered. 00:40:17 dcullen: connection 00:40:20 mariapeters: connection 00:40:22 Timery Reis: They don't always know what is out there to be interested in! 00:40:29 Lisa Jones: Helps the relationship. They don't want their mom to be BORING. 00:40:31 Adriénne: Opens the door to delight 00:40:35 April Dugger: Makes things feel new. 00:41:06 Kelly Bikurgurl: dropping everything for donuts and coffee for read alouds 00:41:07 Ash H (Smash): strewing has been my savior 00:41:15 Hsiaolei: Scavenger hunts 00:41:17 Jeanne: What are surprising things about your relationship with your kids that have made things feel new or surprising 00:41:19 Heather Hitchcock: Ash is a MASTER strewer! Her IG is awesome. 00:41:24 mariapeters: Looking my kids in the eyes 00:41:27 Annie: When I engage in my own studies like learning Greek or Latin the kids are curious 00:41:29 Ash H (Smash): hahah Thanks Heather! 00:41:32 Teresa: Picking up book from Goodwill on my daughters Guniea pigs 00:41:40 Adriénne: We skipped PE at the Y one day last week and went to visit the Wright Brothers Memorial in NC! Such a fun day! 00:41:41 Jessica Sparks: skip the hard subjects!! 00:41:42 Jill Jarvis: Canceling our plan when the cousins plan a last minute trip to see us! 00:41:45 Kelly Bikurgurl: Today, I brought home pizza and churros from Costco while my guys were finishing homework today ;-) 00:41:53 Wendy: Partnership - we are on the learning journey together and both asking questions and getting excited 00:41:55 Kate Johnston Tucker: A random weekday platter of cinnamon rolls and bacon when they walk into the kitchen. 00:41:58 Jeanne: Talking to them about THEIR interests like their videos or video games 00:41:59 TIngalls: new art items 00:42:00 JIll Stabeno: Asking to play video games together 00:42:01 MelodyHolz: reading with a full on accent! 00:42:03 dcullen: big juicy conversations about what I thought was a boring topic 00:42:04 mali: surprise trip to the museum 00:42:05 heather mccoy: moving writing class to dunkin donuts with my son 00:42:07 jennybethke: Writing phonograms on Easter eggs and hiding them…then having an Phonogram hunt. 00:42:09 Kelly Bikurgurl: Dropping everything and going to the zoo 00:42:10 Wendy: Solving gardening problems together 00:42:14 Heather Hitchcock: Ash, share your IG handle, if you’d like! 00:42:16 Brie Sessa: Learning in a fort built in the living room 00:42:16 Sarah: going outside with the read aloud with snacks 00:42:19 elena grover: Surprise trip to japanese dollar store and sushi 00:42:20 Kelly Bikurgurl: playing Fortnite together <3 00:42:21 Hsiaolei: watching lego movies together 00:42:21 mariapeters: Saying “yes” as often as possible 00:42:21 Jessica Sparks: Helping them when its unexpected 00:42:29 Ash H (Smash): Sure...Ig is @smashattackash 00:42:31 Jill Jarvis: Maria…YES!!! 00:42:36 Ashley Glassner: allowing dessert before lunch 00:42:37 Adriénne: surprising them with a yes they’re not expecting to hear 00:42:49 Teresa: Play fighting in the kitchen. 00:42:55 Heather Hitchcock: @smashattackash on IG if you have preschoolers/early ed for fabulous strewing ideas. 00:43:04 jennifer: Japanese dollar store??? 00:43:10 Wendy: Agreeing that yes this book is boring and we are going to stop reading it! 00:43:23 Jeanne: Good one Wendy 00:43:27 Lisa Jones: Wendy, I've done that a lot. Haha! Life is too short for boring books. 00:43:38 Wendy: Birchbark House for us LOL 00:43:56 melanie: i’ve started asking my early teens to pull the car into the driveway. I’m right there guiding all their moves but I’ve started to say, ‘ok - let’s do this!’ And they’re loving it. 00:44:31 melanie: It surprises them when I ask. 00:44:32 katemcclain: ooh that’s a great idea Melanie! 00:45:11 Jeanne: Sharing positively about your child within their earshot is a great surprise 00:46:12 Kate Johnston Tucker: “reframe your worry”. Wow. That is a powerful consideration for me. 00:46:12 Jeanne: Can you reframe your worry in such a way that you support your child? 00:46:25 Teresa: Notes left for them in surprising places 00:46:42 Jeanne: Cool tools and good lighting go a long long way in homeschool 00:47:28 Teresa: We just got sticky note sized scratch off notes the kids have loved them. They turn out so cute and glittery! 00:47:32 Jeanne: Put questions in the Q and A folder 00:47:54 elena grover: I ordered some of these this morningw ith the last of my charter school funds. can't wait for them to arrive 00:48:06 melanie: i just put sticky love notes in my kids books the other night. They’ve all kept their notes. So sweet. 00:48:27 Jeanne: Insight generation comes from the capacity to interact with a wide variety of viewpoints. 00:49:19 melanie: when you swab different things and grow the germs in Petri dishes…oh my! 00:49:40 Jeanne: Shifting perspectives creates mystery - exploring “the edge of knowing” 00:50:14 Teresa: Creating analogies 00:50:18 Adriénne: Yes! 00:50:18 Kelly Bikurgurl: Yes! 00:50:30 Teresa: LOVE IT!!! 00:50:59 Jeanne: Experiencing mystery gives concrete experience that helps us reimagine expectations. The goal of mystery is to look for clues to a bigger truth 00:51:00 Teresa: Analogies make way for LOVE so we can understand everyone better. 00:51:20 Jeanne: Is there more to math than solving the problem someone chose for you? 00:51:30 mali: This is why I love Pi day :) 00:51:56 Jeanne: Pi day was fun, right Mali? 00:52:22 Hsiaolei: Pi day was so fun! 00:52:30 Kelly Bikurgurl: Playing with Pis on Pie Day? It's totally our jam <3 00:52:57 elena grover: OMG MY whole family LOVED those videos! 00:53:00 Michelle: Pi day was fabulous 00:53:02 mali: Jeanne rocked it thanks!! 00:53:20 Kelly Bikurgurl: Yes! 00:53:24 mali: I do know that book. 00:53:24 Tessin: yep 00:53:27 melanie: yep 00:53:30 Jennifer Raymond: my 6th grade teacher used that book! 00:53:40 katemcclain: I used that book in an art class in college!! 00:53:43 elena grover: someone asked me what the big deal was about pi day. When your 7 year old busts out the term circumference and you get to make math fun AND eat pie?!?! Why WOULDN"T you celebrate pi day!? 00:54:03 Jeanne: Right Elena??!! 00:54:21 Hsiaolei: The podcast Wow in the World has a great episode about Fibonacci. It has been a fun math rabbit hole of learning. 00:54:35 Wendy: My kids were not interested in pi. I made a pie though LOL 00:54:37 Stephanie: Yes, in the One Thing Challenge for March. You can still do it! It’s not too late! 00:54:50 Jeanne: Yes Jenn, it’s in the One Thing area. Pi Day is the CURRENT One Thing challenge, but you can do it at any time. 00:54:52 Kelly Bikurgurl: That's a great challenge ,# 00:55:17 Jeanne: You can always go back to the previous One Things. The whole library stays available to members. 00:55:24 mali: we have been falling down the rabbit hole of exponential growth and its relationship to exponents. 00:55:35 Jeanne: The willingness to let go of what we know in favor of what we MIGHT discover 00:55:54 Lisa Jones: Ooh, I want to learn to draw. It's one of those things I always said I couldn't do, but then when I try I often surprise myself. 00:56:13 Jeanne: The book is called Drawing from the Right Side of Your Brain 00:56:16 Hsiaolei: Me too Lisa! My son gives me drawing lessons. 00:56:26 Jeanne: Live your learning right in front of the kids, taking up important time 00:57:13 elena grover: My son got a post card in braille from his auntie and he was thrilled to figure out what it said. 00:57:27 Kelly Bikurgurl: Elena -- I loved the braille postcard on IG <3 00:57:40 Lisa Jones: That's awesome, Elena 00:57:41 JIll Stabeno: Oh the postcard idea is fantastic! 00:57:42 Kelly Bikurgurl: {{So cool - talk about shifting the perspective!}} 00:57:49 Tessin: Everyday Sketching and Drawing by Steven Reddy is different but also very accessible and interesting. 00:58:07 Jeanne: The danger of so much traditional education is that they aren’t actually focused on deepening for mastery of learning 00:58:19 Teresa: Education is Humbling!!! 00:58:33 melanie: The more I learn, the less I know. seriously. 00:58:38 TIngalls: growth mindest 00:58:41 TIngalls: mindset 00:58:48 Timery Reis: Preach! 00:59:00 Kelly Bikurgurl: On drawing -- we used to pay our boys to walk us through how to draw things -- like a quarter a drawing session or drawing....it gave them such pride and had the chance of being the subject matter expert <3 00:59:11 Jeanne: Invsibility of mystery: Not everything you know is visible 00:59:23 Heather Hitchcock: Mystery is also living between the either/or space. Moving between those two viewpoints (it’s either this or that - all video games or none) & critically examining what we know beyond those two viewpoints of either/or. 00:59:28 Lisa Jones: Oh, that's nice. I should pay my son to teach me guitar! He takes lessons and he picks it up faster than I ever could. And I'm a piano teacher! 00:59:32 Teresa: Great ideas with the drawing! 00:59:39 Kelly Bikurgurl: @Lisa -- Yes!! 01:00:31 Jeanne: Oh Heather YES - it’s asking questions that get us away from the binary! 01:00:52 Jeanne: Good idea Lisa - asking our kids to teach us is great! 01:01:24 Jeanne: Risk can include the pleasure of using adult tools - it’s one of the fastest ways to spur a child’s interest and growth 01:01:32 Wendy: Climbing rocks 01:02:05 melanie: competitive gymnastics - tons of risks. It makes me want to hide but my daughter is RISING to the challenge and succeeding! 01:02:07 Jeanne: Risk can by physical, in their bodies, or emotional 01:03:02 TIngalls: this is where i need to grow 01:03:04 Heather Hitchcock: Teens like risks because it can provide profound memories, helping them shape a narrative of their life. 01:03:16 melanie: Risk is exhausting…especially emotional risk. Ha ha ha 01:04:28 Stephanie: Easier said than done when we are personally invested in their response! 01:04:29 Jeanne: Not everything with risk turns out with a happy ending. Sometimes it’s about learning resiliency. Sometimes risk is about telling the truth. Sometimes risk is academic risk. 01:05:26 Lisa Jones: That's like when I show my piano students what happens when you ignore all the sharps in a song that requires sharps. 01:05:57 Jeanne: Sometimes risk means doing violence to the right way of doing something academically 01:06:03 Jessica Sparks: soooo many notes .... HAHA! 01:06:41 melanie: or we could all just watch Drunk History and laugh really hard and deal with the discussion about alcoholism later. 01:06:50 Stephanie: LOL! 01:06:56 Jessica Sparks: LOL Melanie!!! 01:06:56 Wendy: I like your style melanie 01:06:57 Heather Hitchcock: Or How Booze Built a America, Melanie. Ha! 01:07:00 Lisa Jones: Lol Melanie 01:07:39 Hsiaolei: LOL! 01:07:54 TIngalls: we explored a new park yesterday 01:08:23 Jeanne: Adventure is not just about leaving the house - having an adventure means there is some level of journey attached to it: Looking forward to something, some unknowns I can’t predict in advance, there is probably a planning aspect, it often tests your self-reliance and self-sufficiency. Adventure involves some risk, but it also has some narrative arc 01:08:59 elena grover: my girl is doing a backpacking trip hiking several miles into her camp site out of the area with friends, but wihtout her family 01:09:29 Heather Hitchcock: Wow, Elena! That’s awesome! 01:09:36 Lisa Jones: Nice, Elena! 01:09:47 Jeanne: Don’t feel you have to do Surprise, Mystery, Risk and Adventure all at once. Pick one and see what happens. Treat it like an experience; don’t worry if it flops. Your job isn’t to do it right, it’s to DO it. 01:09:50 Adriénne: Awesome, Elena! 01:10:12 TIngalls: you always make us feel so important Julie 01:10:34 Jeanne: If you have questions, post in the Q&A below 01:11:12 Lisa Jones: I feel like we end up being unschooly every month except September. Haha 01:11:18 melanie: This is so so true. 01:11:27 Hsiaolei: Us too Lisa! 01:11:52 Lisa Jones: I have big ideas in September and by October I'm tired. I'm an old mom. Lol 01:12:08 Jessica Sparks: We are right there, spring is kicking us outside and it feels so good. I am having that guilt though that I need to be inside and I keep pushing it out!!! Thank you for so much encouragement! 01:12:15 Jeanne: Comment on things in a natural way when you are engaged in your child’s interest. Seed your own imagination so you can notice things and comment on things naturally 01:12:32 Teresa: The Yearling is just like that 01:12:36 melanie: i do this with movies now. We’re reading less but we talk about ‘the hook’ in movies and music. 01:12:44 Wendy: Ok thank you for this answer! I get it 01:12:48 Wendy: YES 01:13:31 Wendy: Haha that is exactly what I did. Girlfriend 01:13:50 melanie: I usually just go in and cry and also text my friends about how awful my kids are. And then 12 minutes later they’ve done something nice and I just want to kiss their faces off. 01:14:01 Jeanne: Some kids are suspicious of your best efforts. 01:14:05 Jessica Sparks: That is seriously the most frustrating thing that happens at times!! 01:14:20 Wendy: Yes. I don't want them to feel responsible for making me happy. Partnership is the goal! 01:14:30 Lisa Jones: My kid is suspicious. I started out too school-y when he was in kindergarten, but I think he still fears that manipulation. De-schooling myself, as a former teacher, has been tough. And then my teacher husband comes home and asks how we're doing on fractions..... 01:14:37 Wendy: Thanks everyone for sharing that I"m not alone here 01:14:39 Jeanne: Kids need to know that you are partners - and that you’re wellbeing does NOT depend on validation from your kids. 01:14:59 Jeanne: If they are not interested in your things, flip the script: how much have I been interested in THEIR things 01:15:09 Hsiaolei: De-schooling is taking me a long time Lisa! I was a former teacher too. 01:15:21 Wendy: AND...showing interest in their things does not mean buy a curriculum to learn botany to support their interest in gardening. Not that I would have ever done that... 01:15:21 melanie: this whole well-being stuff is so big. And so often we have our own conditioning at play. It’s not about the homeschooling. 01:15:28 Lisa Jones: Last week, I asked my son if he would show me how to play one new video game a day for the whole week. He was excited. I was terrible at most of the games. Lol 01:15:31 Stephanie: I use the “can you humor me” request a lot. :) 01:15:31 Timery Reis: I just watched two episodes of James Charles with my teenagers! They were definitely surprised and delighted! 01:16:05 Jeanne: Wow all of these are great! 01:16:05 Stephanie: A toolbox! 01:16:37 Wendy: I sat down and binge watched Carmen SanDiego with my kids. Their invitation. Wow the learning that happened and we stayed in PJs and watched until 3 pm. 01:16:48 melanie: We got interested in Rome by watching a risky documentary on Hulu. Way violent but so good and they are hooked. 01:16:57 Jeanne: Julie is not asking us to stage a Broadway level play to get a child to do fractions. Sometimes the surprise is that you’re not mad; you’re sitting with your child and working with them. 01:17:08 Lisa Jones: Google Earth has a Carmen Sandiego game right now. 01:17:31 Wendy: Perfect. Thanks for that 01:17:56 Kelly Bikurgurl: love the paper airplane idea ;-) 01:18:05 Jessica Sparks: HAHAHA!!! Yes 01:18:11 Timery Reis: My kids are excited to try that, Lisa! 01:18:12 melanie: i’ll send them texts. They’ll pay attention to those. Ha ha ha 01:18:12 Lisa Jones: I'm the wordiest and teachiest. I cringe at myself all the time. 01:18:13 Adriénne: hahaha 01:18:14 Brie Sessa: LOL 01:18:16 Leslie Baxley: man! I’ve gotta learn how to be more quiet. 01:18:17 Hsiaolei: You are so funny Julie! 01:18:21 Wendy: I have to prove to her that it's fun LOLOLOL 01:18:23 Kelly Bikurgurl: YES! I am always talking....we are a family of communicators ;-) 01:18:24 melanie: So many words. 01:18:24 Heather Hitchcock: Just having pie on Pi day is enough. It’s creating a memory of that day. If nothing else, they’ll associate Pi & 3.14 with fond memories of eating pie with family. 01:18:26 Sarah: Yes!! 01:18:29 Lisa Jones: I mean, I was a high school English teacher, so.... 01:18:39 Jill Jarvis: lol 01:18:55 Linda: OMG That’s MY Husband!!!! Needs endless praise and ego floating 01:19:16 melanie: YES YES YES. These tweens!! 01:19:24 Kelly Bikurgurl: @Heather -- Pi Day is about having a Pie -- it's our ritual to have at least one ;-) 01:19:25 Jessica Sparks: That is where I am too for my daughter! 01:19:36 Wendy: YES THEY DO 01:19:53 Adriénne: Oh yes - total agreement from this recovering perfectist 01:19:55 TIngalls: read No More Perfect Kids 01:19:59 Lisa Jones: Ohhh my son is such a perfectionist. And I was that kind of student. Harsh reality.... Of course my home is a giant wreck, so I don't fit all the criteria. Lol 01:20:05 TIngalls: I am 01:20:13 Teresa: This is totally me!!! HELP! 01:20:29 Lisa Jones: Soooo me, omg. 01:20:47 Wendy: ugh 01:20:52 Brie Sessa: Me :-( 01:20:52 Lisa Jones: I try to keep my face neutral and say nothing, and my son is like "I can see on your face that you're criticizing me." So bad. 01:20:55 melanie: Yeh - it feels like crap. So what do we do? 01:20:59 Jessica Sparks: Tingalls, just requested it. Def. Need all thats being said! 01:21:06 Sarah: my constant battle 01:21:44 Wendy: brownies 01:21:51 melanie: icecream. My agenda is going to be icecream. 01:21:55 Wendy: LOL 01:22:01 Timery Reis: All the treats!!!! 01:23:04 Wendy: Drunk History and ice cream...melanie let's hang out! 01:23:20 melanie: Yes Wendy! Good idea. 01:23:30 TIngalls: love the collaboration idea 01:23:41 Jill Jarvis: Melanie and Wendy…count me in too! 01:23:57 Wendy: Sure thing Jill! 01:24:11 Kelly Bikurgurl: We've really not worried about peer-level readiness....because my guys have always been encouraged to run at their own pace.... 01:24:22 TIngalls: thanks Julie for your constant encouragment 01:24:37 Stephanie: The truth is that you don’t know how they will get there and that is ok. Because you can figure it out together. 01:24:37 melanie: Yes Jill!! 01:24:47 melanie: oh yes Stephanie. Thank you! 01:24:47 Lisa Jones: I think "there are no educational emergencies" at least two or three times a week. Thanks to Stephanie 01:24:53 Jeanne: Interval training is on pages 170-171 01:24:58 Kelly Bikurgurl: ....and we celebrate, 'Remember you didn't start reading until you were 10, but then you were reading novels?" 01:25:33 Kelly Bikurgurl: LOL! 01:25:42 melanie: face first in the arena. 01:25:47 melanie: Brene Brown. 01:25:47 Wendy: Empathy 01:25:53 Jessica Sparks: Feeling it with them! Yes!! 01:25:56 Jeanne: Cheerleading doesn’t pull kids out of it - climbing down in the mud WITH them does help 01:25:57 Adriénne: Love Brene Brown! 01:25:57 melanie: in the arena with them. 01:26:21 Lisa Jones: I just read that Brene Brown is going to have a Netflix show about being brave. 01:26:30 melanie: Yes Lisa. I read that as well. 01:26:32 Adriénne: That sounds amazing!!! 01:26:40 Wendy: LOL like the time my kid "forgot" how to read 01:26:48 Jeanne: You will help them climb out of the mud, or they’ll keep escalating becoming more behind and resistant. Drop the rope and get on their side 01:29:02 Wendy: Thanks to Liam 01:29:48 Jeanne: Liam says: YouTube has been invaded by bots and infiltration of channels for children. When Julie is talking about video games and videos, she’s expecting us to be as present as we would be in other areas of our kids’ lives 01:29:55 Linda: maybe one of our Alliance months can be around this video game topic w Liam as a guest speaker 01:30:03 Michelle: I'm struggling at the moment in not wanting my boys to play fortnite anymore in light of the mass shooting in Christchurch on Friday. This is suddenly very real, and very close as we only live an hour and a half away. How do I value the love of this game, while helping my boys to understand that shooting people is not ok? 01:30:06 Wendy: ooo yes 01:30:25 Stephanie: It is hard to say that you value video games without folks assuming that means “no controls” or no collaboration. 01:30:42 Jessica Sparks: Balance!!! Always important 01:30:50 Kelly Bikurgurl: Michelle -- it's a conversation over time through the years in our house, not a one time thing ;-) 01:30:50 Adriénne: I find the Circle helpful at our house, and clear communication and understanding of our family’s internet rules. Lowers the stress level. 01:30:53 Jill Jarvis: I had a conversation with my 98 yo grandmother about the value of video games. She actually said she could see the value in them! 01:30:58 Linda: it requires a constant dialogue w our kids. can’t avoid it….have to always be talking with them about it. 01:31:00 Wendy: I feel like the answer that has always been the best for us it to experience these things together 01:31:11 Kelly Bikurgurl: @Linda -- Yes -- it's all about the dialouge 01:31:14 JIll Stabeno: Talk about what is happening in the game with your kids. Make sure they understand real and game 01:31:16 Lisa Jones: Yes, Stephanie. Most of my mom friends very severely limit their kids' screen time. I strive for balance, but games are my kid's passion, so I'm ok with him doing it a lot. 01:31:30 Lisa Jones: And I definitely keep track of what he's doing. 01:31:42 Wendy: Want to know for sure if your kid is learning things? Sit with them while they play their favorite game. WOW. 01:31:49 TIngalls: a new thing i was made aware of today is EMFs and the affect it can have on our brains 01:31:58 Linda: re: the Circle…it never tracked Fortnite here. 01:32:11 Adriénne: @Linda - oh, good to know! 01:32:43 Linda: My son at age 10 decided on his own to delete Fortnite after I shared w him some of the information in the book Gender Matters about the affects on brain development in males. 01:33:14 Michelle: Thank you Kelly, yes, it is over time but right now my reaction is don't play that because the irrational me is thinking that the gun man was a supposed normal boy and played video games and turned out to be able to do that. 01:33:19 melanie: thank you thank you! 01:33:19 Michelle: Thank you Linda 01:33:23 Jessica Sparks: Thank you!!!! 01:33:25 Jill Jarvis: Thank you!!! 01:33:27 jennybethke: Thank you! 01:33:28 mindycummings: Thank you so much, Julie!! 01:33:28 Jessica Sparks: Yes!! 01:33:28 Wendy: Love you so much Julie Jeanne and Stephanie!!! 01:33:29 TIngalls: YESYESYES 01:33:30 mariapeters: Yes 01:33:30 mindycummings: yes! 01:33:31 Kelly Bikurgurl: Yes! Thank you <3 01:33:32 Adriénne: Yes, thank you so much!!! 01:33:32 katemcclain: yes!!!!!! 01:33:32 Timery Reis: Yes! 01:33:32 mariapeters: Very helpful 01:33:33 Ashley Glassner: Yes! 01:33:33 JIll Stabeno: thank you 01:33:34 Karen Huebner: Thank you! 01:33:34 Michelle: Thanks Julie!!!, amazing. 01:33:37 Erin: yes, Thank You!!!! 01:33:37 Cindy Poitras-Farahani: THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!! 01:33:37 Brie Sessa: Thanks Julie! 01:33:38 Sarah: Thank you so much!!!!!! 01:33:39 Christina: Thank you Julie! very helpful 01:33:40 Laura A: Thank you! 01:33:40 katemcclain: thank you so much! 01:33:40 Ashley Glassner: Thank you so much! 01:33:41 dcullen: tremendous! 01:33:41 Annie: Yes thanks Julie and team 01:33:44 TIngalls: Thank you for your encouragement 01:33:47 mariapeters: Thank you 01:33:47 Ry-Ann: Thank you 01:33:48 Jeanne: We’ll also have the video available on replay once it’s processed 01:33:57 Adriénne: Good night! 01:33:57 Stephanie: Bye!